Voracious Anxiety of love

You can learn a lot about love from a dog. Over the years, we have learned much about the essentials of a loving relationship by observing our dogs.
We are proud to tell you that our Louie is truly a Wonder Dog. He is loving, caring, intuitive, intelligent, handsome, and a wonderful friend and companion. Frankly, we love him like a child. And the good news is, he loves us right back! And he loves us unconditionally!
Louie is a mixed breed dog – half Golden Retriever and half Yellow Lab. He is a marvelous dog. He is a beautiful dog. He has been our faithful companion and best friend for nearly 13 years. He is everything you could ever want in a best friend. He tells us by his “words” and his actions that he is delighted to see us, that he missed us, and that he loves us. And when we come home from work he shivers, howls a gurgling sound, and wags his tail uncontrollably.
No matter how bad our day, no matter how stressful our work, and no matter how tired we are, just seeing Louie lifts up our spirits, relaxes us, and makes us feel loved. Isn’t that amazing? How can a dog have that effect upon us? How can our Wonder Dog, Louie, make us forget all of our cares and woes, lift up our spirits so completely, and make us feel so warm and fuzzy?
1. Here’s the first lesson. Our dog loves us unconditionally. He doesn’t love us “If we do something he likes,” “If we feed him his food and water,” “If we let him sleep with us in bed,” “If we comb his fur,” or “If we take him to the Vet.” He just loves us. He loves us unconditionally. People in the human race should learn this simple lesson.
2. Louie never lies to us. He always tells us the truth. When those soft brown eyes look at you, you melt! There is no equivocation in his eyes. He loves us, plain and simple. Just tell the truth! The eyes know love.
3. Louie never bites us. Oh, for sure, he might let out a little growl when you try to move him over so you can get in bed, but that is only a warning that he has found his “cozy place” in bed and you are intruding on his space. But bite? Never in a thousand years. He disagrees with us from time to time, but we are his friends, his family, and his supporters. To bite us is so far from his mind that he could never imagine it. And neither could we.
4. And finally, Louie knows the most important lesson of all—we are his best friends, his family, his trusted associates, and his providers. He can count on us through thick and thin. He can count on us when the chips are down. Louie knows in his heart that we would never let him down, never cheat on him, never hurt him, and never betray him. He loves us unconditionally and we love him just the same.
You can learn a lot about love from a dog. Our Wonder Dog Louie has taught us the loving lessons of life. We are eternally grateful for his love, his trust, and his companionship.
To learn the lessons we have learned from Louie is to have learned the essence of love. Louie has inspired us on to even greater love. We owe the big boy! His example about love is a model we should all follow. Human beings could learn a lot about love from you. Thanks, Louie. We love you unconditionally.
In love and marriage the simple things matter. Love well!

We live in a society that is addicted to fast, young, beautiful, and me, more, now. We are constantly told that we need to have this gadget, or make up, or job in order to be lovable, and in our constant quest for the quick fix, we really lose sight of ourselves.
It is remarkable that we spent so much time, money, and effort to look youthful and vital, and then condone men who leave their wives for a younger model. It is also tragic to see the vast numbers of young women, and increasingly men, who are electing to have surgery in order to be more.....whatever it is that they are chasing- thinner, more beautiful, younger, bigger breasts, and so on.
The advertisers take no responsibility for the increase in eating disorders, bad debt, or suicides that occur in our society because we are essentially not happy in our own skin. We do need to take absolute responsibility for what we believe, and yet, we are constantly hounded with images and messages that tell us that we are not good enough as we are.
Magazines, movies, adverts, newspapers, and the internet all give us an idea of how we can be if we just change everything about ourselves, and become like whoever they are showing off today as perfect. The biggest issue with this is that we want to look like the latest model, or feel the promise of youth or power, but we fail to take into account the real person behind the face. He/she most likely suffers from insecurity, needs hours to look perfect, and probably longs for love in a different way, and does the job they do in order to be accepted.
What we do not remember is that they are human too, with faults, and issues.
Quite possibly one of the saddest aspects of our society is that so many of us are trying to be someone else, instead of loving what is. No matter how long you spend day dreaming or wishing, if you are five foot four and wanting to become five foot ten, you are wasting your time. If you are desperate to be 20 pounds lighter, and spend all your time wishing to be thin, and eating extra cakes, quite possibly, you need a different kind of help, and are again wasting your time.
Learning to love what is and to make the very best of what you have is one of the hardest lessons that we come here to learn. However, spiritual growth and personal development all concentrate on this one aspect, because without working on this, you can never find peace or happiness.
You have come to this planet, and are exactly where you are supposed to be and who you are supposed to be, warts and all. If you can learn to love the warts, the talents, the challenges and the essence of yourself, then you will be able to feel the love that we are all craving and chasing in our own ways. You are worth it, and you are also already everything that you are looking for.

People speculate a lot with the word trust and they do it on purpose. I would like to make a few clarifications about it...
Many times trust is mixed with faith. But to have faith is one thing and to trust someone is something completely different. Faith is pointing outwards, it is created outside and is based on other people experiences and achievements. Trust is facing inwards, it is built within us and is based on the personal experience and achievements. Meaning of the words is irrelevant when we are not moving anywhere and we don’t want to know anything about ourselves.
We can think and speak whatever we want. But when we want too be aware of ourselves and the world around us every word matters. We must be careful what we think and what we speak of. Thus we have to be careful with the expressions we use. The expression “to trust someone” is as correct and reasonable as the expressions “people’s folklore” or “iron wood”.
Let’s use the mathematical principle used to find something that we guess is unknown. We have the expression “ I trust someone” where the word “trust” is the unknown. We replace “trust” with “ten bucks” and we get the sentence “ I have ten bucks in someone”. The first question is why my ten bucks are in someone else, and not in my pocket? Especially when I need them. In most cases the others fail to protect someone else’s property and it happens “I lost trust in someone / someone’s ten bucks “. Considering the fact that these expressions want to show the faith in someone and respectfully our dividends coming from out faith, thus the loss is painful. The pain is as strong as is the input. It is the same as when we loose money.
Trust on the other hand is an inner achievement, just like love. It is necessary to do some effort to be able to build trust. It is not granted. If granted, it is quickly lost. Trust is unconditional, because it does not have external reasons, conditions or support. It lacks greed, because we don’t expect anything from anyone and nothing can disappoint us. That’s exactly what happens when we fall in love. Everything seems wonderful. Soon, though, our protective mechanisms against love and trust switch on and start running effectively. If, we want to remain in love in the long term we do need to destroy these protective mechanisms.
Trust also means not to interfere in other people’s activities and not to hinder them. Everyone is following their own life path and must chose on his/her own whether to follow their destiny or to create it. Jealousy is another grand obstacle when it comes to trust. The more important is to pay attention to what we do with someone when we are together and not what he/she is doing when we are not together (during the day).
Everyone has free will. When we talk to someone, only our conversation matters. The other one is not obliged to stick with us. When the conversation is over he/she is free to go and talk to someone else or do something else. Jealousy prevents that, especially when the other one is a close friend or a spouse….

If somebody says that they love you, find out what do they love in you. Do they love your personality, your looks, your power, your money or your emotional makeup? Once you know that they love something that may not change much after years go ahead and reciprocate. For example- your money or power or looks may change, but your personality and your emotional makeup will not change much. Do they love you for what you are or do they love you for what you have?

One of the important questions that loom before us on our first date is what we should be wearing? Giving the right impression on the very first date is vital as it would decide whether you will meet the person in the future or not. Therefore the way you look and present yourself matters a lot, no matter how much your date would deny the fact that looks are not on his/her list of qualities that a potential partner should have. The first date used to be a formal affair when both met up for dinner at a posh restaurant. However, with the changing times, this popular practice has become passe and dinner at the local diner or going to a ball game or a music concert and other such activities have replaced the formal affair that the first date used to be. No matter where the two of you meet, it is very essential for you to dress up appropriately. Here are a few tips for you to get the right look on your first date.
Girls are almost paranoid before the first date. After the date is planned, they spend endless hours at the mall searching for the right outfit, the right pair of shoes and the right accessories. Another important aspect is makeup and jewelry. Makeup and jewelry should complement your looks and not dominate. Excessive use of makeup would make you look like a clown and going over the top with jewelry would make you look like a portable jewelry store. Either ways, the guy would find it very embarrassing to walk in your company.
If your date plans to take you to a posh and classy restaurant for dinner, it would pay to go light and subtle. The best possible dress on such an occasion would be a cocktail dress. As it would be a dinner date, colors like black, maroon, beige, forest green, white and deep blue would go better than their lighter versions. If you think that the cocktail dress would be too flashy, the LBD or the little black dress is an evergreen option. It is a safe way to ensure that you look great without thinking too much. Another possible option is a fancy white shirt with a classy pair of trousers or a smart little skirt. Keep makeup to a limit so that it accentuates your features. Give heavy accessories a miss and don something on the lighter side.
On the other hand, if your date plans to take you somewhere casual, think of denims, a bright and attractive top and sneakers to go with it. In this case you can accessorize according to what you might do on usual days. Avoid something that may look too revealing as it may give a wrong impression. Don’t forget to pay attention to what you do to your hair. A girl’s hair is a great turn on for men and if done the right way, it can do wonder to what he feels about you. Don’t forget a good perfume as guys are first attracted by the way a girl smells. Most often they relate a girl to one particular fragrance.
Just keep in mind, that you wear only what you are comfortable in.

Guys don’t have to worry so much as girls have to about what to wear on the first date. But still some guys do face confusion choosing what is appropriate enough to wear on their first date. If you are confused and don’t think that you will be able to choose the right outfit all by yourself, it is a good idea to have a female member of the family or a female friend to help you in your endeavor to look your best. Getting a female’s approval is a good idea as they would know what other girls would want a guy to look like on the first date. Another thing that guys ought to remember before their first date is basic hygiene.
If the date is arranged at an upmarket restaurant, a crisp black suit is the right option. Choose a suit that makes you look classy. If you think a suit is extravagant for your style, stick to a formal shirt in the richer and darker shades. Pay attention to what you may want to do with your accessories. Good accessories like the right watch, belt and shoes can help you earn brownie points with your date.
In case you have arranged to go for some place more casual, the best would be to stick to denims and a shirt to go with it. Make sure you wear the clothes with the right fitting lest your jeans droop too low or your shirt doesn’t seem your size. Girls hate these little things and probably would not opt for a second date if your dressing sense has such anomalies.
It is essential that you wear the right kind of clothes. Avoid something too loose or something too tight. It is always the best idea to wear just what you may be comfortable in.