Voracious Anxiety of love

You can learn a lot about love from a dog. Over the years, we have learned much about the essentials of a loving relationship by observing our dogs.
We are proud to tell you that our Louie is truly a Wonder Dog. He is loving, caring, intuitive, intelligent, handsome, and a wonderful friend and companion. Frankly, we love him like a child. And the good news is, he loves us right back! And he loves us unconditionally!
Louie is a mixed breed dog – half Golden Retriever and half Yellow Lab. He is a marvelous dog. He is a beautiful dog. He has been our faithful companion and best friend for nearly 13 years. He is everything you could ever want in a best friend. He tells us by his “words” and his actions that he is delighted to see us, that he missed us, and that he loves us. And when we come home from work he shivers, howls a gurgling sound, and wags his tail uncontrollably.
No matter how bad our day, no matter how stressful our work, and no matter how tired we are, just seeing Louie lifts up our spirits, relaxes us, and makes us feel loved. Isn’t that amazing? How can a dog have that effect upon us? How can our Wonder Dog, Louie, make us forget all of our cares and woes, lift up our spirits so completely, and make us feel so warm and fuzzy?
1. Here’s the first lesson. Our dog loves us unconditionally. He doesn’t love us “If we do something he likes,” “If we feed him his food and water,” “If we let him sleep with us in bed,” “If we comb his fur,” or “If we take him to the Vet.” He just loves us. He loves us unconditionally. People in the human race should learn this simple lesson.
2. Louie never lies to us. He always tells us the truth. When those soft brown eyes look at you, you melt! There is no equivocation in his eyes. He loves us, plain and simple. Just tell the truth! The eyes know love.
3. Louie never bites us. Oh, for sure, he might let out a little growl when you try to move him over so you can get in bed, but that is only a warning that he has found his “cozy place” in bed and you are intruding on his space. But bite? Never in a thousand years. He disagrees with us from time to time, but we are his friends, his family, and his supporters. To bite us is so far from his mind that he could never imagine it. And neither could we.
4. And finally, Louie knows the most important lesson of all—we are his best friends, his family, his trusted associates, and his providers. He can count on us through thick and thin. He can count on us when the chips are down. Louie knows in his heart that we would never let him down, never cheat on him, never hurt him, and never betray him. He loves us unconditionally and we love him just the same.
You can learn a lot about love from a dog. Our Wonder Dog Louie has taught us the loving lessons of life. We are eternally grateful for his love, his trust, and his companionship.
To learn the lessons we have learned from Louie is to have learned the essence of love. Louie has inspired us on to even greater love. We owe the big boy! His example about love is a model we should all follow. Human beings could learn a lot about love from you. Thanks, Louie. We love you unconditionally.
In love and marriage the simple things matter. Love well!

We live in a society that is addicted to fast, young, beautiful, and me, more, now. We are constantly told that we need to have this gadget, or make up, or job in order to be lovable, and in our constant quest for the quick fix, we really lose sight of ourselves.
It is remarkable that we spent so much time, money, and effort to look youthful and vital, and then condone men who leave their wives for a younger model. It is also tragic to see the vast numbers of young women, and increasingly men, who are electing to have surgery in order to be more.....whatever it is that they are chasing- thinner, more beautiful, younger, bigger breasts, and so on.
The advertisers take no responsibility for the increase in eating disorders, bad debt, or suicides that occur in our society because we are essentially not happy in our own skin. We do need to take absolute responsibility for what we believe, and yet, we are constantly hounded with images and messages that tell us that we are not good enough as we are.
Magazines, movies, adverts, newspapers, and the internet all give us an idea of how we can be if we just change everything about ourselves, and become like whoever they are showing off today as perfect. The biggest issue with this is that we want to look like the latest model, or feel the promise of youth or power, but we fail to take into account the real person behind the face. He/she most likely suffers from insecurity, needs hours to look perfect, and probably longs for love in a different way, and does the job they do in order to be accepted.
What we do not remember is that they are human too, with faults, and issues.
Quite possibly one of the saddest aspects of our society is that so many of us are trying to be someone else, instead of loving what is. No matter how long you spend day dreaming or wishing, if you are five foot four and wanting to become five foot ten, you are wasting your time. If you are desperate to be 20 pounds lighter, and spend all your time wishing to be thin, and eating extra cakes, quite possibly, you need a different kind of help, and are again wasting your time.
Learning to love what is and to make the very best of what you have is one of the hardest lessons that we come here to learn. However, spiritual growth and personal development all concentrate on this one aspect, because without working on this, you can never find peace or happiness.
You have come to this planet, and are exactly where you are supposed to be and who you are supposed to be, warts and all. If you can learn to love the warts, the talents, the challenges and the essence of yourself, then you will be able to feel the love that we are all craving and chasing in our own ways. You are worth it, and you are also already everything that you are looking for.

People speculate a lot with the word trust and they do it on purpose. I would like to make a few clarifications about it...
Many times trust is mixed with faith. But to have faith is one thing and to trust someone is something completely different. Faith is pointing outwards, it is created outside and is based on other people experiences and achievements. Trust is facing inwards, it is built within us and is based on the personal experience and achievements. Meaning of the words is irrelevant when we are not moving anywhere and we don’t want to know anything about ourselves.
We can think and speak whatever we want. But when we want too be aware of ourselves and the world around us every word matters. We must be careful what we think and what we speak of. Thus we have to be careful with the expressions we use. The expression “to trust someone” is as correct and reasonable as the expressions “people’s folklore” or “iron wood”.
Let’s use the mathematical principle used to find something that we guess is unknown. We have the expression “ I trust someone” where the word “trust” is the unknown. We replace “trust” with “ten bucks” and we get the sentence “ I have ten bucks in someone”. The first question is why my ten bucks are in someone else, and not in my pocket? Especially when I need them. In most cases the others fail to protect someone else’s property and it happens “I lost trust in someone / someone’s ten bucks “. Considering the fact that these expressions want to show the faith in someone and respectfully our dividends coming from out faith, thus the loss is painful. The pain is as strong as is the input. It is the same as when we loose money.
Trust on the other hand is an inner achievement, just like love. It is necessary to do some effort to be able to build trust. It is not granted. If granted, it is quickly lost. Trust is unconditional, because it does not have external reasons, conditions or support. It lacks greed, because we don’t expect anything from anyone and nothing can disappoint us. That’s exactly what happens when we fall in love. Everything seems wonderful. Soon, though, our protective mechanisms against love and trust switch on and start running effectively. If, we want to remain in love in the long term we do need to destroy these protective mechanisms.
Trust also means not to interfere in other people’s activities and not to hinder them. Everyone is following their own life path and must chose on his/her own whether to follow their destiny or to create it. Jealousy is another grand obstacle when it comes to trust. The more important is to pay attention to what we do with someone when we are together and not what he/she is doing when we are not together (during the day).
Everyone has free will. When we talk to someone, only our conversation matters. The other one is not obliged to stick with us. When the conversation is over he/she is free to go and talk to someone else or do something else. Jealousy prevents that, especially when the other one is a close friend or a spouse….

If somebody says that they love you, find out what do they love in you. Do they love your personality, your looks, your power, your money or your emotional makeup? Once you know that they love something that may not change much after years go ahead and reciprocate. For example- your money or power or looks may change, but your personality and your emotional makeup will not change much. Do they love you for what you are or do they love you for what you have?

One of the important questions that loom before us on our first date is what we should be wearing? Giving the right impression on the very first date is vital as it would decide whether you will meet the person in the future or not. Therefore the way you look and present yourself matters a lot, no matter how much your date would deny the fact that looks are not on his/her list of qualities that a potential partner should have. The first date used to be a formal affair when both met up for dinner at a posh restaurant. However, with the changing times, this popular practice has become passe and dinner at the local diner or going to a ball game or a music concert and other such activities have replaced the formal affair that the first date used to be. No matter where the two of you meet, it is very essential for you to dress up appropriately. Here are a few tips for you to get the right look on your first date.
Girls are almost paranoid before the first date. After the date is planned, they spend endless hours at the mall searching for the right outfit, the right pair of shoes and the right accessories. Another important aspect is makeup and jewelry. Makeup and jewelry should complement your looks and not dominate. Excessive use of makeup would make you look like a clown and going over the top with jewelry would make you look like a portable jewelry store. Either ways, the guy would find it very embarrassing to walk in your company.
If your date plans to take you to a posh and classy restaurant for dinner, it would pay to go light and subtle. The best possible dress on such an occasion would be a cocktail dress. As it would be a dinner date, colors like black, maroon, beige, forest green, white and deep blue would go better than their lighter versions. If you think that the cocktail dress would be too flashy, the LBD or the little black dress is an evergreen option. It is a safe way to ensure that you look great without thinking too much. Another possible option is a fancy white shirt with a classy pair of trousers or a smart little skirt. Keep makeup to a limit so that it accentuates your features. Give heavy accessories a miss and don something on the lighter side.
On the other hand, if your date plans to take you somewhere casual, think of denims, a bright and attractive top and sneakers to go with it. In this case you can accessorize according to what you might do on usual days. Avoid something that may look too revealing as it may give a wrong impression. Don’t forget to pay attention to what you do to your hair. A girl’s hair is a great turn on for men and if done the right way, it can do wonder to what he feels about you. Don’t forget a good perfume as guys are first attracted by the way a girl smells. Most often they relate a girl to one particular fragrance.
Just keep in mind, that you wear only what you are comfortable in.

Guys don’t have to worry so much as girls have to about what to wear on the first date. But still some guys do face confusion choosing what is appropriate enough to wear on their first date. If you are confused and don’t think that you will be able to choose the right outfit all by yourself, it is a good idea to have a female member of the family or a female friend to help you in your endeavor to look your best. Getting a female’s approval is a good idea as they would know what other girls would want a guy to look like on the first date. Another thing that guys ought to remember before their first date is basic hygiene.
If the date is arranged at an upmarket restaurant, a crisp black suit is the right option. Choose a suit that makes you look classy. If you think a suit is extravagant for your style, stick to a formal shirt in the richer and darker shades. Pay attention to what you may want to do with your accessories. Good accessories like the right watch, belt and shoes can help you earn brownie points with your date.
In case you have arranged to go for some place more casual, the best would be to stick to denims and a shirt to go with it. Make sure you wear the clothes with the right fitting lest your jeans droop too low or your shirt doesn’t seem your size. Girls hate these little things and probably would not opt for a second date if your dressing sense has such anomalies.
It is essential that you wear the right kind of clothes. Avoid something too loose or something too tight. It is always the best idea to wear just what you may be comfortable in.

Men love eating. Why not impress him with your cooking? Take a good cook book, find out what he likes to eat most and try to make a few dishes. Make sure you make something different or add something new so that he will love it. Make sure you taste what you have made first. Cook when you have at least 2 hours of free time so that you aren’t disturbed. Invite him to your home for some treats after you are done. Good luck.

Girls like personalized gifts. They feel that you have taken the extra effort. Also a personalize gift is likely to remain with your girl for a long long time. We recommend personalized photo products. Give her a coffee mug with a photo of both of you printed on it. These days, you can give photo-personalized bag tags, posters, calendars, mouse pads, photo books, t-shirts, etc. This will not cost too much and your girl will like it.

Spice up the romance in your relationship by trying different and new hobbies together. This will not only get your creative side out but it will teach you something new, be lots of fun and contribute significantly to the romance level between both of you. Here are different hobbies you can indulge in together:
1. Dancing:
Dancing is a great way to spend time with your partner. It improves the chemistry between couples, is lots of fun and also keeps you fit. You can try various ballroom styles like Salsa, Jive, Slow Waltz, Lindy Hop, Cha Cha Cha, Rumba, Viennese Waltz, Tango, Foxtrot, etc.
2. Cooking:
Cooking can be really relaxing. You can try different recipes with your partner. Surf the Internet for different kinds of recipes to try. The best part is the two of you will have a great time together, cooking also will be fun and you get to taste something different. You can even try something interesting like sugar craft. It refers to making various designs with the use of sugar. It is often prepared for the icing on cakes. This hobby is very relaxing and gets you totally absorbed into it.
3. Photography:
They say photos are the best way to cage memories. Why don’t the two of you indulge in something as interesting as photography. Choose a theme and then go for it. So sometimes maybe you could just take pictures of yourselves.
4. Candle making:
Melting wax, molding it, adding color, shaping and designing the candle is an art. Use your spare time by making candles for your homes, together. You can get creative and make something for each other. Or use wax and mold it into a message for each other.
5. Reading:
Whoever said only little children enjoy bedtime stories? In case the two of you enjoy reading and share the same interests in the kinds of books you read, this one is for you. The two of you can read out books to each other every night before going to bed.
6. Sports:
Sports not only keep you fit but they can be lots of fun. When you are playing with your better half, what can be better? Try different kinds of sports depending on your tastes like badminton, swimming, basketball, table tennis, carom, bowling, golfing, etc.
7. Gardening:
Gardening or horticulture as they call it is a very interesting hobby to indulge into with your partner. You can construct a special garden outside your house and practice gardening right there. You can grow various ornamental plants and watch your love grow as your garden blossoms.
8. Watching Movies:
This is one hobby enough to keep you entertained at any point in time. Watch movies together with your partner at home. You don’t need to go out of your way to do this. You can search online for the latest movies to choose. Or if you wish you can also choose from several holiday classics.
9. Canoeing:
Canoeing refers to paddling a small narrow boat on the river. It is a leisure activity and can have a very soothing effect on your mood. This is an amazing activity to practice along with your partner.
10. Shell collecting:
Shell collecting as the name suggests, refers to collecting different kinds of shells by the beach and preserving them. This is a very relaxing hobby. In fact it gives you more time to spend by the beach together. The shells can be preserved as a memento of all the wonderful times the two of you have together.
These are a set of 10 interesting and unique hobbies that you can choose to indulge into along with your partner. We hope you enjoy it.

A breakup is one of the most painful times of in your life. This pain is more if we are dumped compared to the pain experienced when we dump someone. For many of us, the pain of breakup is very intense. Here are some ways to avoid pain after the breakup.

1. Avoid your ex completely:
The most important thing to keep in mind right after the breakup is that spending time with your ex would constantly remind you of all the good times of your relationship and hurt you even more. If you call, email, text or try to meet your ex constantly, you will be termed as a stalker and lose even the remotest of the chances that the two of you have of being together once again. The best possible way is to completely steer clear of your ex and try and avoid communication among the two of you.

2. Allow yourself to feel pain:
The first result of a breakup is intense pain. If you are suffering a breakup, don’t avoid the pain, but to realise that the pain is good for you. It is natural to feel pain when you lose someone who had a lot of importance in your life. When you feel pain, it is almost like a sign saying that you are on the process of healing. There is no need to panic in such a situation. The best advice to overcome the pain would be to give in to it and let it have a positive impact in your life. The pain post breakup can be a source of inspiration for you to do something better, that you have always wanted yourself to do.

3. Keep yourself busy:
The best way to avoid post breakup blues and thoughts about your ex is to keep yourself busy all the time. The mind will not think if you do not give it time to wander. Keep yourself constantly involved in different types of activities. Pick up those activities that you love doing. This will remove your focus from the breakup to the activities you love. Activities will not only freshen up your mind and relieve you of the pain but they will also help in causing a diversion for your mind and would keep you away from thinking or even trying to keep yourself from contacting your ex.

4. Speak about your feelings only to a close friend:
It is a bad idea to talk about your breakup to each and every friend of yours as they will eventually start avoiding you, thinking that you have nothing to talk except the breakup. On the other hand it would be a wise decision to pick up one friend who you think will understand your thoughts and your feelings and will listen patiently to all that is on your mind. Remember that your close friends can be your greatest support system when it comes to breakup and they would honestly give you the best advice. Use this support system to the fullest and talk to your best friend when you feel post breakup blues.

5. Pen down your thoughts:
Maintaining a journal post breakup is a good idea. Writing is one of the good ideas to vent out all the hidden pain, frustration and anger that the breakup brings with it. Maintaining a journal would release lot of hidden pain from your heart and head. After you recover from the breakup, it would also be an insight as to how much you have evolved as a person. There is no substitute for writing when it comes to getting out one’s feeling as you can keep editing your writing about your hurt.

6. Meditation:
Meditation is an old technique to relax a tense mind. Closing our eyes and forcibly extracting each and every thought from our mind is the essence of meditation. These thoughts would be very difficult to ignore but we need to give ourselves the time to clear the clutter in our mind. Only then will there be any scope to sort out ourselves and move ahead in life for the better.

7. Take care of your family:
Your family is one of the biggest support system that you may have in your life. They would stand by you through thick and thin and would try their best to help you cope with the post breakup pain. Keeping yourself constantly involved with your family would not just keep you busy but would also ensure that you have people to stand by you when you have those gut wrenching feelings of grief and that you give them quality time and bond with them. Your family understands your needs more than anyone else.

8. Throw away all memories:
One of the ways to try and forget your ex is by throwing away each and every of those things that you may feel is reminding you of him/her. It is a difficult thing to do but it would be a start to forget all those times the two of you spent together. If you had been given a ring during the relationship, it is always a good idea to give the ring back than keep it yourself to dig up the scars of the broken relationship. Giving expensive gifts back after the breakup would also show to your ex how respectful you are of your own self and that you did not remain in the relationship for the expensive gifts that you received.

9. Focus on your career:
Try and make your career the most important aspect in your life. There is no bigger a high than being successful in life. Efforts to build your career would keep you busy for something that you will reap rewards in the future. It would also show everyone that you are not a coward as you did not cower down after a sour relationship. Many people hide themselves under the sheets and lose out on their life and eventually lose out on their respect too. However, the ones who emerge successful after a broken relationship are the ones who are respected the most.

10. Give yourself time:
It is essential to give yourself enough time. You must realize that nobody recovers from the grief of a breakup in a jiffy. It takes days and months before seeing any signs of recovery. It all depends on the type of person you are and how you can handle negativity in your life. Do not try to go in another relationship right after a breakup. It is important to think clearly and give yourself enough time before getting back into the dating scene after a breakup.

These are some important aspects that one has to keep in mind after a breakup.The main task is to keep one’s pride and self-respect intact without letting anyone take advantage of you.
Does your ex still have feelings for you?
This is a reality for most people after a break-up? What about your ex? Try this relationship quiz for an answer.
Do you miss your ex?
Some people still crave to be with their ex even after a break-up. They still miss their ex and are ready to get back with him/her. What about you? Do you miss him/her?

According to the experts from the Geneva School of Business, marring a younger woman who belongs to the same cultural background could increase a couple's chances for a long and happy marriage by a fifth.

What about love? In a relationship of deep love, all the sharing that we discussed above are taken for granted. But love transcends all this. During love, we are attached with a particular person, while in friendship, one may have many friends. A loving relationship makes one so much attached to the other, that one gets pained if his/her beloved is hurt! Love also involves a physical element. Friendship does not have that. This is a vital difference. Nature gives us love so that the specie can go forward. Nature does not give us friendship.

Your heart beats will never increase in anticipation of meeting your friend. You will not lie awake at night thinking about your friend. You will not feel totally lost, if you don't meet your friend for a few days. You will not have dreams in your eyes thinking about your friend. But in love, you will do all this and much more. Indeed, there is no comparison between love and friendship.

You've tried to move forward with your life but you just can't help it, you still love him/her. People have told you "learn from it and get over it" but it's not as easy as it seems because you feel stuck.

How do you switch off those feelings?

You can't. If you truly loved him/her you will never stop loving. When you truly love someone (I am not talking about the ego-ridden, selfish controlling, fear driven kind of thing most of us think is love), you never ever get over it. That's just the way love is.

When we fall in true love, we open ourselves to a part of ourselves that is far much bigger and more powerful than just our mind, will and emotions. But because our understanding of this "thing called love' is so limited (mind, will and emotions) we attach love to a particular person, someone outside of us. We see that person as a love object instead of a reflection of ourselves, a possession to hold onto instead of a conduit for the expression of the love within us.

This ego-ridden, selfish controlling, fear driven sense of love tends to think and act as if both love and time are elusive or actively evading us. We are constantly searching, planning, manipulating and worrying about how love will stay in our lives. We try to hold onto it: set limits on time to call after a date, when to say "I love you", when to expect a commitment etc. We are distracted by all the other ego-driven impulses such as jealousy, sense of inadequacy, fear of responsibility, not to mention power control.

When the person goes away, our limited understanding of love tries to explain the void left by that person using our mind, will and emotions. We struggle with trying to make '"sense', will ourselves not to think about the person and control our emotions but all that just ends up in a frustrated effort. Occasionally, our limited understanding tries to get the person back using the same futile attempts and when that fails too, we try using the same limited understanding to try and move on, but with no apparent luck.

What do you do with those feelings of love?

1. Sort out what is true love and what is ego-fear -driven about your feelings.

2. After you've established what is true love about your feelings hold onto that. Don't be afraid of what's in your heart.

3. Do some real inner cleaning up of all the junk that is keeping you in ego-ridden, selfish controlling, fear driven ways of loving. This does require risk in the sense of losing "grip" of what you have been familiar with all your life. But this step in absolutely necessary - no one can do it for you. It is this liberating of yourself that leads to a condition of happiness never before experienced.

With an expanding perspective of love, you will start to draw into your life people who reflect the balance and love you have achieved internally. Depending on where you are at, you will attract (i) people who are also searching for their inner balance/peace, or (ii) people who have already been on that path and found what you are searching for, people who will help and support you through your own journey. 

I have had clients who are drawn to a chance meeting with an ex and because they are vibrating a different energy, the feelings are rekindled both ways. In other cases, they call me up and say, I met my ex at such and such a place "I still love/him/her but I do not feel like we are right for each other anymore" and they meet someone else. I have also had clients who try to reach out to an ex but found the other person in the frame of mind where they think and feel they are happier with someone else. But they are not devastated because they understand the nature of love and are confident that they will experience those feelings with someone again.

Don't surround yourself with imagined limitations, and deny yourself the opportunity to experience true love!

Love at First Sight. Perhaps, it is the most romantic thing that can happen to anyone. It makes people lose their heart and mind within a matter of several seconds. Love is a very strong emotion which, sometimes, is even impossible to control. Love at first sight can happen anywhere, anytime - in a subway, while walking on a street, or seeing a beautiful face from across the room ...

People who haven't experienced love at first sight themselves, probably don't believe that it can be real. There are many skeptics who say it is just passion or lust that attract people to each other, and refuse to believe that one can really fall in love with another person at the first moment their eyes meet.

And do you believe in love at first sight? Some scientists after studying human brain activity noted that it is quiet possible, but everyone is free to believe or not to believe. There are people who really experienced this wonderful moment. They say that as soon they have raised their head and met those eyes, they instantly knew that they were looking at the person of their dreams.

Psychologists say that love at first sight depends on our psychological state at the very moment. Sometimes we will not even notice those charming eyes, and other times they can deeply impress us. Also they say we need approximately 30 seconds to fall in love or, to be more precise, to establish whether the person is attractive, and a potential mate. By the way psychologists claim that men fall in love first.

"The study gets at the basic perceptual aspects in mating," said psychologist Jon Maner of Florida State University, who decided to find out how people react on strangers they have never met before. "It shows how quickly, strongly and automatically people are attuned to physical attractiveness whether looking for mates or guarding their mates from potential rivals," he added in an interview.

In the study university students were shown pictures of very attractive or average-looking people for just one minute, and after that they were asked to look at other things. The reaction time of the participants was measured, after what the psychologists were able to determine that half a minute was enough for students to decide if someone is attractive. The researchers also noticed that people fixated on attractive faces for half a minute longer after the one minute time limit.

"These are the kind of people we might prefer as romantic partners, but it doesn't mean we'd be able to have a relationship with them because highly-attractive people are very sought after," said Maner.

A lot of factors play role in the situation of falling in love from the first sight. When you fall in love at the first sight you are usually ready and willing to do so. There is less chance that it will occur when you are tired, depressed or your head is exploding with problems. The main part in falling in love is given to the physical appearance, voice, gestures and smell. One person intuitively searches in the other the qualities and the features he likes and enjoys the best. It is a known fact, that beautiful people attract attention the most, but sometimes it is wrong to fall in love with them right away, because those people are most probably spoiled by attention from others as well, and, therefore, might not even notice you, or simply leave without attention.

So how is it possible to understand if what happened to you is love at first sight?

1. First of all, try to understand what is the first thing that got into your mind when you saw a person. If the first thought is physical, then it probably is not love. But if you are excited and overwhelmed by a desire to get to know the person better and take things slowly so they work out for you, then it might be a good sign for a deeper relationship.

2. A person's attractive physical qualities are something that anyone can see and appreciate, but when you really fall in love with someone, it means that you will not appreciate and notice only his/her physical appearance, but also will notice other qualities that no one else can see. If you are able to notice such features, but your friends, for example, are not, then it is another good sign that you might be falling in love.

3. Falling in love with someone means wanting to know everything about that person, from their likes and dislikes to their life experiences. Just have patience to learn about them slowly, be understanding and supportive, and at the end, everything will work out for you in a best way.

Still, the cases when people really had fallen in love from the first sight and lived a long and happy life after are very rare. People may dream of a beautiful stranger that waits for them just around the corner, and sometimes it takes patience and time to find a real love. People must understand that this kind of things do happen, but not as often as they would like them to. And if out of nowhere you just suddenly start feeling the growing wings behind your back, still try to keep your feet on the ground because if it is really a deep and true feeling, nothing will ever happen to it, but if it is just your illusions that you accept and see as a reality, then disappointment from falling back on the ground can be very, very painful.

Use Valentines day as an opportunity to make your girlfriend a little more happier than she already is with you. Bring that smile that you love so much, back to her face. Here are 10 ways to make Valentines day special for your girlfriend: 

1. Write her a love letter:Letters no matter how old the idea may be, they still are more romantic than any other media. This Valentines day, write a letter about how much you love her and what she means to you. She will preserve it forever.

2. Prepare chocolates for her:Girls love chocolates. Instead of buying her a box of chocolates from a shop, why don’t you prepare them yourself for her. You would probably be the only guy who has done something as sweet as this for her.

3. Make a bouquet for her:Don’t just buy her a bouquet of flowers from a florist. Make her a bouquet yourself. Use all her favorite flowers in the bouquet. You can also use ribbons and decorative paper to enhance the bouquet further.

4. Get her a pet dog:Place a puppy out of the main entrance to her apartment after you ring the bell and hide. When she opens the door, she will have one of the best Valentines day gifts ever staring at her overjoyed face.

5. Take her for a date to the beach:The waves, the breeze and the sand are priceless gifts that a beach offers. This Valentines day, take your girlfriend for a walk along a secluded moonlit beach. Make it even more special, have a huge heart drawn on the sand for her. The two of you can dance in the middle.

6. Ballroom dancing:Ask her for a dance, for the entire night. What could be a better way to celebrate Valentines day? Take your girlfriend for a Valentines day ballroom dance party.

7. Spa:She’s your girlfriend. She obviously needs pampering. Take your girlfriend for a day at a really good spa. You can opt for a couples package that includes a massage, a face lift, manicures, pedicures, etc. Girls absolutely love pampering. She will never be able to thank you enough.

8. Trekking:If your girlfriend is the adventurous kind, this will be a great way to surprise her. Take her trekking to some place to where you have been before. At the top of the peck of the mountain that the two of you have to climb, place a box with a ring. When she reaches on the top, she will be up for one big fat wonderful surprise.

9. Paragliding:What is more romantic than flying in the sky with the one you love? This Valentines day, take your girlfriend paragliding at a mountainous region. There are various agencies that organize such activities. Choose the one that offers the best deal.

10. Tell her that she’s not your girlfriend anymore:Won’t it be quite a pleasant surprise? Just kidding! What we really mean is ask her to marry you. Nothing can make her day more special than this. This is a moment that girls always dream about right from when they are little. Hence, make sure you make it special for them. Propose for marriage in the most creative way possible.

These are 10 different ways how to make a day like Valentines day special for your girlfriend. The idea is to make her feel like a princess for a day. Make it a day that she will always remember. It is nice sometimes to remind the one you love, about your feelings for them. It keeps the love in your relationship grow. Best of luck to you.

2. Leave little gifts:Even if a girl is fiercely independent, occasional gifts from her lover makes her feel special and loved. The gifts don’t have to be expensive or flashy. For most of the girls, it is the thought that counts. The gift would go to show that she is the one who is always on your mind.

3. Compliment her often:Compliments are music for the ears of girls. Since long, men have tried their best to impress girls by showering them with compliments. It has been a way to show a girl how perfect she is. A compliment will show your girl that your love and care for her is increasing. While complimenting you should look very sincere otherwise it may come across as fake.

4. Offer a helping hand:Guys often tend to be laid back when it comes to doing their chores and that may leave a girl overburdened. One of the ways to show that you love her is to offer a hand in the housework and help her. Love is about going through the ups and downs of life together. Responsibilities, shared equally, go a long way in keeping a relationship healthy and strong.

5. Avoid criticizing her:Girls are very bad in dealing with criticism. It is unacceptable to them that someone puts them down so easily by throwing all their mistakes on them. If you criticize her often, you are ensuring a breakup soon. Instead give her advice from time to time. Don’t sound like a preacher, but sound like a friend.

6. Make her feel special:Every girl thinks of herself as a princess and her man as her Prince Charming. She expects him to be a lover straight out of a romantic novel at times. Your attempts to charm her and make her feel special will never go waste as many girls crave for men who can make them feel so. Victorian romances are still very popular among a lot of girls as in the romances of that era the women would be made to feel special by their man in little ways. She will love you for all your efforts you are giving to the relationship.

7. Kidnap her from routine:This may sound like a crazy idea but can work out to be a great one if done in the right way. Attempt to kidnap her but in a fun way. Next, take her somewhere that she does not expect at all. This would be a great break from routine and a stress buster for both of you. She will be surprised to see your concern for her. Make the rules of the kidnap clear that she would be with you for as long as you want to kidnap her from her routine and take her to places where it will be just the two of you enjoying togetherness.

8. Ask her more about her day:One of the best ways to tell her that you love her and are there for her always, is to let her talk more. Come out of your own needs and inquire about hers. Ask her some questions like how her day was and if it was bad, was there any particular reason for it to be so. Offer your help in situations you can improve and show your support if the matters are beyond your control. Women don’t need much when it comes to support. Asking her little things and showing concern will make her feel loved and wanted.

9. Do things together:
When couples do new things together, the bond of love between them increases and thus, the relationship is strengthened. For every couple, it is essential to do some things together as it gives rise to a feeling of connection among them. The couple work as a team for whatever they are doing and make some memories that last them a lifetime. Things that can be undertaken together are common hobbies, special classes, adventure sports and so on.

10. Give work an occasional miss to be with her:To tell her just how much you love her, give work an occasional miss to be with her. This would show her that nothing holds more importance in your life than her as she is right at the top on your list of priorities. Also, try to implement some very basic things like not getting busy with work as soon as you get home and keeping your work related phone calls on a low when you are with her. This would never make her feel second place to anything in your life.

Implementing some of these little things in your life would result in her feeling that you love her and are always there for her irrespective of everything. She would be more comfortable with you than with anyone else. Your love and your efforts would also ensure that she is happy in the relationship.

There must be more than a hundred ways to make a girl feel special. Want to know the top ten? Search no more. Read the following list on the best ways you can woo your girl and put her on cloud nine:

1. Be romantic in public:One thing your girl will absolutely love from you is your affection in public. Girls love to flaunt their men to their friends. Some flirting and mushiness will definitely make your girl smile. Don’t go overboard with PDA (public display of affection).

2. Share her interests:Her hobbies and passions may be far different than yours, but if you try to take some interest in what she likes, she will be delighted to show you around. Girls appreciate this kind of care and concern much more than expensive gifts.

3. Talk to her and prod her about small things:Girls love to talk, whilst boys are more bottled up. Ask her how her day was and listen to all the stories that she has to tell you. Listening without interrupting is a very essential asset for a relationship.

4. Flatter her with small gifts:Small tokens once in a while without any reason or rhyme will win your girlfriend’s heart in a jiffy. A small neck chain, a customized head scarf, a box of chocolates – anything inexpensive but given with love and hugs will weave magic.

5. Verbalise your love and support:Girls look for romance and emotional support in verbal terms. You may be genuinely there for her, but until you verbalize that, she will be unsatisfied.

6. Be eager to meet her family:
Guys usually associate meeting the girl’s family as a sign of entering a long term commitment. But this is not the case always. Many a times, your girl just wants you to meet some of her family to flaunt you off. Don’t read too much between the lines when family comes into the picture. Just saying a hello to them will make your girl extremely happy.

7. Leave her sweet nothings on voice messages:Find creative ways of saying ‘Good Morning’. You don’t necessarily need to do something typical as leaving flowers on her door. Leave plenty of romantic voice messages on her phone and surprise her for the morning.

8. Play sports with her:Your girl will love the fact that you treat her as an equal. Even if you know that she’s going to be horrible at playing a baseball game with you just let her play and let her win! This is one of the ways to show her how much you love her and make her feel special.

9. Compliment her:You must shower compliments on her not only when you are going out to a party and she’s looking nice, but also on her bad hair days. That is the key of making her feel special. You have to let her know that she looks equally stunning in her night pyjamas as much she does in her black evening gown.

10. Write her a poem:Even if you’re not very good at writing, pen up a few lines just for her and post that in her Facebook or Twitter page where everybody can see it. Even if your poem is naive and amateurish, she will love the fact that you wrote it for her.

A personal touch and a hint of care and concern in whatever you do is all that a girl needs. Most men think that women are a mystery and a complicated specie. In reality, it takes very little to make your woman feel special.

1. She laughs even at jokes that are not funny:This is one of the important signs that she likes you. If she laughs at your jokes, irrespective of it being good or bad, she does like you. It would be her way of indirectly saying that she enjoys the same brand of humor as you or she is trying to show that she likes you. It is a way of girls to make guys feel important and boost their ego.

2. She pays a lot of attention to what you say:A girl who likes you would look in your eyes as you talk. You will find her following you through what you say and her eyes would not wander. She would remember little things that you mention in the conversation and ask about things herself to get to know more about you. She would want to connect with you better with the help of past conversations.

3. She constantly touches you:When a girl likes you, she would constantly touch you in a light and casual way. It would be like a playful punch, a casual touch on the arm during conversation and similar gestures. She would do this to break the touch barrier between the two of you.

4. She gets jealous when you flirt with someone else:Girls are easy victims of jealousy, especially if it involves the men they like. If your flirting with some other girl gets her jealous, it is likely that she has some hidden feelings about you. However do not flirt more otherwise she may begin feeling that she does not hold an important position in your life and result in her leaving.

5. She pretends to need your help:This is yet another way that girls use to massage the male ego. A girl would pretend to be terrible at something and would get you to help her, thus making you feel important. She may pretend to be the damsel in distress to have you come to her rescue as her knight in shining armor. In such situations, always be willing to extend a helping hand to her.

6. She gazes over at you very often:A girl who likes you would tend to look at you rather often. However, there is also a way in which she would look. If a girl has genuine feelings then she would either hold your gaze or look away frantically if you tend to glance back at her. If a girl holds your gaze, she is confident of herself and might approach you. However, if a girl looks away quickly, she may be shy and would be waiting for you to make the approach.

7. Her friends giggle/tease her when you are around:Girls tend to stick along in groups and most of the times, if a girl likes someone, the entire group is sure to know about it. Reactions like giggles and hushed whispers are common when you are in the vicinity. Some of her friends may even loudly tease her by calling both your names together. However, the thing to look out for, is her reaction to all of it.

8. She gives a lot of importance to you:If a girl likes you, all of her conversations would revolve around you. Her thoughts and actions would be such that they place you in a position of importance in her life. She would want to relate you with everything she talks about and would try that she gets you more involved with her life. You would take center stage in her life.

9. She flirts with you:When a girl likes someone, she tries to open up and have fun with that person. So, when you would flirt with her, she would subtly flirt back, thus allowing you to flirt some more. It is a way of a girl showing you that she likes you and wants to have you come closer to her.

10. She looks for reasons to spend time with you:If a girl likes you, she would search for excuses to spend time with you. Whether it is homework or a movie that none of her gal pals will watch, she would always want you around. She would also text you more often than anyone else and would look for reasons to call you and your conversations over the phone would generally linger to other topics without knowing how much time has passed.

If you observe some of these signs together, you can be fairly sure that the girl likes you. In such a case, you can proceed further by approaching her. However, every individual is different, has different attributes and reacts differently to situations. Judging a person solely on body language would be risky. The best option is to get to know her more before making an approach.

Trying to impress a girl is not easy. Girls are unpredictable. It is difficult to predict what could change their mind about you. You also have to be careful in your approach as girls can smell a desperate guy from miles away. A little carelessness from your side and you will witness the three inch heals running away from you. However, impressing a girl is no rocket science. With a little effort from your end, it shouldn’t be difficult to impress the girl of your dreams.

1. Don’t Give Her Too Much Of Attention:Now this is a tricky one! You have to pay some amount of attention to her but nevertheless, keep it minimal. Girls, for some unknown reason, tend to get attracted to boys who don’t shower them with attention all the time.

2. Gentlemen Like Behavior:A well-mannered gentleman is always a turn on for every girl. Even small gestures like holding the door for her, serving her first when out on dinner or simply talking to her with respect will naturally get her attention drawn towards you.

3. Listening To Her:Girls love to talk. They naturally would find a guy who listens to them more appealing than the rest. Do not interrupt while she is talking or be ready to face her wrath.

4. Sense Of Humor:If you manage to make her laugh, half of your work is done. Girls love boys who have a good sense of humor. A boy with a great sense of humor is on the wish list of almost every girl on this planet.

5. Maintain Eye Contact:When you are talking to her, try looking deep into her eyes instead of looking all over her or somewhere else. It shows confidence and also shows that you are seriously interested in conversing with her.

6. Play Hard To Get:Don’t let her know that she can get you easily. Put up a strong front and play hard to get. Be a little secretive and don’t tell her everything about yourself. This will make you seem more appealing.

7. Be Honest:Girls like boys who are not insecure to show their true side. Don’t put up a fake front. Lies can cause a lot of embarrassment when they are exposed. Always be proud of your own identity.

8. Hygienic:An unhygienic man is the worst nightmare for any girl. Under any circumstances she would not want to be with a boy who doesn’t know about basic hygiene. Also, make sure you are well groomed. Practicing some amount of table manners and other etiquette is also necessary if you want to impress a girl.

9. Compliment Her:Girls love it when guys compliment them about different things. However make sure that you sound sincere and are not complimenting for the sake of it.

10. Kindness:Last but not the least, be kind to people around you. This specially refers to those like cab drivers, watchmen, waiters and so on.

Girls like simple things. As soon as they find that you are faking and are actually a person who is trying to be someone else, they get instantly turned off. Be yourself because at the end of the day even if you don’t get the girl, why would you want someone to like you for what you are not?